Disclosure reciprocity effect: Clarissa

disclosure reciprocity: we reveal more about ourselves to people who have been open with us. We reveal a little and then the other person reveals a little.

My friend Nate, opened himself up and told me many things about himself. In return I decided to tell him some things about myself that I normally don’t disclose.

When others open up to us, we may have the feeling that we should or can do the same.  When my friend Nate really made himself vulnerable by sharing some really personal and sensitive aspects of his life- I knew he trusted me- and therefore I felt that I could trust him. I then decided that I would equally be as open with him as he was with me.  As I look at the relationships that I have developed throughout my life, I have noticed that the ones that are the most meaningful are the ones where there has been much self-disclosure- or where the disclosure reciprocity effect has taken effect.

  1. #1 by jennaehaug on June 5, 2012 - 10:29 AM

    I find the disclosure reciprocity effect to be at direct odds with fearful attachment. I think this example is great, and I agree with the disclosure reciprocity effect. I think it is inevitable for people to not become closer with those who know more about their lives. However, I find it interesting that it does not mention fear because I think that it is natural to experience some fear when opening up to others, and I do think that it can backfire. Therefore, while this is a great example, I’m not sure that opening up to others always results in that relationship becoming stronger.

  2. #2 by peacepirate on June 7, 2012 - 10:14 PM

    I think another aspect of the disclosure reciprocity effect is the content being shared. Though personal information brings people closer together, personal information which is not self-serving can make that bond even stronger. When someone is willing to tell you about their faults or misgivings, you know they are being truly honest with you. Also, I have heard theories about relationships that true levels of intimacy are only reached when one individual is able to inform another of that persons faults. When we have gotten to a point where we accept the criticism of another positively, that is true intimacy, and another branch of the disclosure reciprocity effect.

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