Loneliness and Gender- Christine Sellers

One thing that caught my eye in the book was what I read about loneliness and gender. For men to feel lonely, they have been isolated from group interactions. For women to feel lonely, they lack one-on-one time with someone they feel close to. This is something I think is SO true.

My husband and I are very different, and we both get our emotional “fill” in different ways. In order to not feel lonely, I need to have good conversations and quality time with people I have strong relationships with. For Collin to not feel lonely, he just needs to be next to someone… even if they’re not really doing anything with each other.

If we are both in the living room but I’m typing something up on the computer and he is playing a game on his phone, that’s good enough for him to feel like he is included. For me… I need us to actually have a conversation with each other. Even if I am with a group of people, if I’m not interacting I can still feel lonely.

It never ceases to amaze me how much genders differ with so many thing, loneliness being another one I can add to the list.

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  1. #1 by tatiherman on June 7, 2012 - 11:56 PM

    I completely understand what you mean. More so to your side of it as I’m the same way. I need to have some sort of meaningful interaction with my husband to feel the companionship I love. Yet he’s happy just having me sit next to him and play angry birds as he watches a game. He’s lonely when I’m physically absent, and I feel lonely when we haven’t interacted that day.

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