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Altruism is a selfless act done out of concern for others.
In this video runner Meghan Vogel helped carry another runner who collapsed only a small distance from the finish line during a 3200 meter race at Ohio Division III state track . She even helped the other runner so that she, and not Vogel, would cross the finish line first. Although helping another runner is cause for disqualification the officials allowed the girls to be ranked as #14 and #15. Although Vogel won a state title earlier in the day she said that, “Helping her across the finish line was a lot more satisfying than winning the state championship,”
A lot of people would argue that true altruism is not possible and that those who commit “selfless” acts actually do it for some sort of obligation or duty or in anticipation for a reward. In this situation however, Vogel’s actions would’ve led to a disciplinary action, being disqualified, and not a reward. That being the case I believe that this video demonstrates what a true altruistic action looks like.
Ingratiation is the process in which an individual seeks another’s approval. They can use many strategies, flattery being a main form. We do this to gain acceptance and love from those around us. It can also be the means to an end, that we are gaining approval for some other motive or gain.
In the movie, Despicable Me, Gru is seeking to earn the approval of the orphanage director. He needs the three orphans to execute his plan. When he doesn’t think things are going well in the interview, he resorts to flattery.
Gru uses flattery to gain the approval of the orphanage director. He seeks to compliment her, and make her like him. Even though in this scene he is actually insulting her, what matters is how she interprets it. Flattery only works if the person chooses to accept it. Gru was able to accomplish his goal by flattering this woman to get her approval. His use of ingratiation was a strategy to reach a larger goal.
Peace is often most easily reached when two parties with different goals or aversion to one another work together for a common goal. When people collaborate against a common enemy they feel a strong sense of bonding and reliance upon one another, regardless of past difficulties. This presents itself in many ways, through natural disasters and calamities, but also during times of war when atrocities have been performed and all are able to agree that the opposing force is a clear enemy.
In The Lord of the Rings, two competing parties find they must work together. Frodo and Sam are on a quest to destroy the ring of power, and they only possible way to do so is to bring it deep into enemy territory. Gollum is obsessed with the ring, and wishes more than anything that it not be destroyed. However, if Frodo and Sam are killed, the ring will be taken by Orcs and Gollum will never be able to see it again. Therefore it is in Gollum’s best interest to help the hobbits along their journey so they are not spotted, and it is in Frodo and Sam’s best interest to accept the guidance so they are not killed. Though the two groups initially hate one another, they begin to respect and understand one another as they cooperate. Here is a clip from the movie where Gollum first tries to attack the hobbits, though later he is subdued.
The bystander effect occurs when no one offers assistance or help of someone in need when there are others around. This in part is due to the fact that people believe someone else will help or because no one else is helping then they should not help.
An example of bystander effect is that of James Bulger, a two year old boy who was beaten to death by two ten year old boys. These two boys dragged him around town before and after they had injured him and no one really helped him, even though he was obviously hurt as he cried and struggled against the ten year olds. Only a few people stopped to ask if he was okay, but because they did not take action and physically help him out, he was murdered. http://becblair.blogspot.com/2007/09/story-of-james-bulger-and-link-to.html
This example represents the consequences of bystander effect and supports the power it has on people when they are around others.
Altruism, the best gift we can bless someone with. It might be toward someone we love or one we are trying to love. In all honesty, it doesn’t matter who receives it, however what really counts is the act of giving away of our time and efforts to help our neighbor by expecting nothing in return. We all need to maintain this attitude so we can be ready to catch an opportunity as soon as we see it coming.
After being married for 2 years I’ve come to realize that altruism is applicable in almost everyday living with my spouse. Just recently, while my wife was in the application process for the MBA program at BYU, I was the one who had to spend more time cleaning the house and cooking dinners after work. At first it seemed very much a hassle, I didn’t feel like I had the time and thought I was wasting my time till I realized that this is what families are about. I never before had thought of the blessings I was receiving from walking the extra mile and carrying more load on my back than before so Carol could be successful in her study efforts.
In the end although my wife was accepted in the program, I was the one with the greatest reward. I’ve learned a little bit more about the importance of altruism and how it is necessary for social relationships to improve in a much faster pace.
Overjustification effect is the result of bribing someone to do what they are already doing. This makes it seem like a task rather than something to do out of enjoyment. Because it seems controlled, it is less appealing to the person doing the task, when originally they would be doing it anyway.
I always played volleyball for fun. Once I was in college and on scholarship, it became more of a job and although I love the sport I think I may have enjoyed it less. This is an example of overjustification effect.
I remember going to the Food and Care coalition and volunteeering my time. When they offered me a job I felt silly because the pay wasn’t where I wanted it to be.
Altruism: is being selfless by helping or providing aid to others while expecting to get nothing in return.
When I think of altruism one of the first things that comes to mind is service. As a little girl growing up in my family providing service for others was always something my parents hit hard on. My mom, being a big scouter, taught us the value of “doing a good turn daily.” As a family we set a goal to do at least one good turn a day and come the next monday for FHE we would all report what our good deed was or if there were multiple we would pick a couple and explain how they made us feel or what we learned. At the beginning this kind of just seemed like a competition I had with my siblings to see who could provide the most service, but as I got older I eventually began to understand the value of what my parents were trying to teach us. It is so easy to do at least one good thing for someone else everyday and being able to recognize others needs was extremely insightful in many ways.
Another example I thought of were those who begin non-profit organizations. These are people who found a social need and created a solution to someones problem. They give up time, money, and effort doing something that benefits others as opposed to working on something that is beneficial to them. I have always been impressed with peoples ideas on how to help others and hope that someday I will be able to start my own.
In conclusion, being someone who is altruistic is becoming selfless and looking to serve those who may be in need of help.