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One thing that caught my eye in the book was what I read about loneliness and gender. For men to feel lonely, they have been isolated from group interactions. For women to feel lonely, they lack one-on-one time with someone they feel close to. This is something I think is SO true.
My husband and I are very different, and we both get our emotional “fill” in different ways. In order to not feel lonely, I need to have good conversations and quality time with people I have strong relationships with. For Collin to not feel lonely, he just needs to be next to someone… even if they’re not really doing anything with each other.
If we are both in the living room but I’m typing something up on the computer and he is playing a game on his phone, that’s good enough for him to feel like he is included. For me… I need us to actually have a conversation with each other. Even if I am with a group of people, if I’m not interacting I can still feel lonely.
It never ceases to amaze me how much genders differ with so many thing, loneliness being another one I can add to the list.
The Misinformation effect – Incorporating “misinformation” into one’s memory of the event after witnessing an event and receiving misleading information about it.
Some of us may recall an event and tell the story of what happened believing that everything we “remember” actually happened. Memory can be misleading and manipulated.
In this video, the male telling the story of when he was lost as a child appears to be a true memory. He believes that this event really occurred. He even created specifics in his memory like the flannel shirt.
This can be interesting in a court room because a lot of what the jury can go by is “eye witnesses.” After many studies, we understand that an eye witness may not be as accurate and reliable as we originally thought. When someone wants to believe something so badly that person can create memories of an event that never happened or alter the true memory to match the desired memory.
Minority influence refers to the impact that a relatively small group of people has on a larger group in making a decision of some sort. Phrases such as, “majority rules,” or “join the crowd” lose their appeal and validity when the minority sticks together and adamantly endures peddling on an uphill course in fighting the majority influence. The minority, whether consisting of a group of 100 people or a single individual, is most likely to gain power over the majority when it remains consistent, persistent, and self-confident.
In the movie, You’ve Got Mail, a counter example of the success of minority influence is shown in the conflict between two bookstores. One of the bookstores – The Shop Around the Corner – is a small, family-run business while the other – Fox Books – is a new enterprise run by wealthy businessmen. The dilemma is that the very presence of Fox Books – ironically just around the corner from The Shop Around the Corner – threatens the business and customer retention of the smaller store. To combat this threat, The Shop Around the Corner gathers followers together in rallies and organizes strike marches around Fox Books, all the while consistently and persistently fighting and even believing in their ability to succeed. The Shop Around the Corner, however, fails to keep their company going and eventually gets run out of business. Given their consistency, persistency, and self-confidence, why did they not succeed? My simple observation of the matter tells me that they were lacking one vital feature – money.
Therefore, although minority groups can exert their influence over the majority’s with sufficient stamina and conviction, in the business arena, an extra characteristic is needed. Not only need the minority possess consistency, persistency in effort, and self-confidence, but also the adequate cash flow. In other words, moola!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EVlaur-kEds&feature=related 0:00 – 1:35 (You’ve Got Mail)
This is the best clip I could find, sorry.
Adaption -level phenomenon: this is the tendency to judge our experiences by comparing them to past experiences. For example, the book explains that as our income rises, or our social prestige improves we feel pleasure. But as time goes on, we adapt. What once felt good now feels just normal- and what was normal or neutral before now feels like deprivation. This phenomenon also entails our ability to judge our adaptive capacity. Often we underestimate our adaptive capacity. We have a hard time predicting the intensity and duration of our future positive and negative emotions.
In the movie Home Alone, Kevin (the main character) is at first very happy when he finds himself at home alone- with the house to himself. But as time goes on- the excitement lessens- and he finds himself missing his family.
In this movie Kevin thought he would be super happy being home alone- without his annoying family around. When Kevin is alone, the excitement of being home alone evaporates more rapidly than he had expected. In this situation- Kevin underestimated his adaptive capacity.
“1st Birthday- Real or Imagined?” by Tatiana Herman
The Retelling of events has to do with people repeating a story to themselves and solidifying that story in their mind. If the story is accurate, the retelling makes the narrator resistant to future misleading suggestions. However, if the story has some incorrect aspect, then the inaccurate version will eventually become truth.
About a year ago, my extended family was gathered together and exchanging stories. I decided to chime in with my earliest memory. I described my first birthday party. My mother and father were there along with my mother’s side of the family. What I remember is sitting in my high chair as my mother carried in my vanilla birthday cake singing to me with everyone else surrounding me. I remember a kitchen with dark wood paneling and dim lighting to enhance the glow from the single birthday candle.
My mother was kind enough to let me finish, but as soon as I had, she couldn’t help giggling as she corrected me on my version of the story. I had told this story to friends in the past and with each telling solidified not only the details, but even the mental images in my mind. I was so convinced that I had it right that it took me a while to admit to myself she would have the more accurate memory at 27 years old as opposed to my one year of age.
Retelling is when someone recounts an experience that happened to them or they have witnessed. It was noticed that when individuals retell a personal experience, they often fabricate or exaggerate, and as they retell it these fabrications are accepted by the individual as truths. Thus, as the story is recounted again and again it becomes more exaggerated, and these exaggerations seem more and more reasonable.
Another phenomenon of re-telling is that the ‘teller’ will often bias their story to sound more favorable depending on who they are addressing. This behavior is seen in the BYU Animation short film Pajama Gladiator. When he is caught trying to steal cookies from on top of the fridge, he begins to recount the situation to his mom. Because he knows his mother will be angry if she discovers he was trying to sneak cookies, he decides to bias his retelling, making up an elaborate story about alien abductions. As he continues with the story, he becomes more and more convinced of its authenticity. These are classic symptoms of retelling.
Retelling is when people recount events according to their own recollections. Because we usually change what we say to please those around us, we often embellish and exaggerate the facts of what really happened.
A good example of this is in the sixth Harry Potter book. Ron gets poisoned accidentally and spends a few days recovering in the hospital. For a few weeks afterward, every time Ron recounted the events, he embellished his story to make him sound more of a hero than a helpless victim. In fact, now that I think about it, Ron embellishes events a lot. One of my favorite lines from Ron is at the end of the seventh book when he tells his son that everyone in the train station is staring because he is so famous, when really they are all staring at Harry.
A good accurate retelling of events can defend us against misleading information, but more often than not, we embellish the events the more we tell a story to make us sound better, much like Ron does in Harry Potter.